It’s time I addressed the problem of hitmen like me being shut out of the kink and BDSM community.
Clearly nobody in the scene has a problem with murderers, which is some progress, at least: here in the UK, an average of two AMABs every week murder their AFAB partners, and the vast majority of them have a history of enjoying dominating or hitting their partners – proud kinksters, all.
So the objection to including assassins under the kink umbrella can only come from the minor differences between us:
1. We charge money.
The belief that charging for pain play, blood play and breath play suddenly makes all these practices immoral is clear whorephobia. (No, I don’t think “whore” is a slur, and even if it were, I’m allowed to say it.)
2. We’re not in a relationship with our targets.
When you imply that a killer has to be in a committed, romantic, domestic relationship with his target, you are moralising about what sort of relationships are an acceptable context for GBH and murder. That is slut-shaming. (No, “slut” isn’t a bad word either, see “whore” above.)
If folx in the BDSM scene would stop this gatekeeping, I think they’d see that assassins belong right there with them. We could teach you some tricks, I know at least twenty ways to torture someone with a hotel trouser press.
I hope this has helped to show you how much more we have in common than divides us. :3 We’re just like you!

