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Sex trafficking laws assume that all underage sex workers are exploited young girls who have been forced into such work by a vicious pimp. But does this actually reflect the experience of most young, domestic sex workers? Using ethnographic research from Atlantic City and New York City, Anthony Marcus, Chris Thomas, and Amber Horning find that underage sex workers have much more agency in their relationships with pimps than many assume[…]

*rubs eyes*

Yup. It’s real.

It certainly is real! This is a fabulous article: when talking about children working in the industry, it really focuses on their individuality, consent and agency.
👍

In this context, I mean “agency” as in their free, individual choice, not “agency” as I usually mean it to mean “manager/employer/market facilitator”, or “pimp” as they so crudely put it in the article. That really surprised me, the writers are usually very good at using the correct language (e.g. “relationship” instead of the clearly problematic term “exploitation”, and “underage sex worker” instead of “child rape victim”).

“
There are, of course, violent and otherwise abusive pimps: approximately
5 percent of the pimps in the pimp study described such an approach to
pimping.”

The focus on self-identification is great – really, it’s up to the manager to say whether or not they identify as violent. It’s essentialist to assume their violence status for them based on their behaviour or criminal actions.

And indeed, in Figure 1, we see only 7.4% of underage sex workers identified as having a market facilitator.
(A total of 44.2% were initiated into the sex industry by a friend or a relative, but he/she/zxe chooses not to identify as a pimp. Much like when people used to assume Screwdriver Smith was my “handler” just because he kept assigning me contracts and telling me to “do the hit, Gaspar, or the council’ll find your teeth in the next fatberg they dig out of the fucking sewer”, when he was actually my very good friend!)

At all levels, pimps were constantly faced with the danger of being
abandoned for another pimp, an escort agency, or independent work.

It’s rare that you see the dangers faced by the managers being acknowledged. There’s always a horrific danger that they could lose some of their income!
😧

I appreciate that. I’m also glad the researchers were very positive about the overwhelming 5.6% of underage sex workers who don’t want to leave the industry. I don’t want to leave the sexualised violence industry, so it’s good to see that it represents my interests.
🙂

And I bet
all the SKERFs will argue I’m not representative of these sex workers

because I’m 35 and live in a penthouse flat in Kensington and could probably work somewhere else if I liked, but that’s my choice – there’s nothing stopping any of these children from buying a flat here too, attending an elite university (Carradine College, Oxford, in my case), and networking with employers in other industries.
In fact, Dmitry’s old flat is on the market right now for £1.2 mil. He had to move suddenly and unexpectedly, so he’s lowered the price, hoping for a quick sale. Top floor, 47 Foucault Road. Snap it up, it’s a bargain!

How much for vanilla?

You mean, make the hit look like vanilla masturbation or sex gone wrong? Hmm, I hadn’t thought of that before. What an unusual request!
Really, there needs to be an element of pain play or bondage for the usual MO to work; if the sex is between consenting equals and involves mutual respect and no physical harm (bo-ring!), how am I supposed to cover my tracks?
Tell you what, I could slip the target a lethal dose of some kind of heart medicine and make it look like he/she/xie over-exerted him/her/xemself. Let’s call it 12 grand since I haven’t tried this before and it’s a very niche request. Please let me know your thoughts, and the target’s name, address and pronouns! 🙂

ooh, that post about sexualised violence reminds me: speaking of trigger warnings, I need to clean my .22. I like to keep it on my person, just in case, but I haven’t used it in a while, I haven’t needed to finish off a target. I guess that means I’m getting better at pulling off the strangulations! ^_-

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Bdsm is not abuse

Jessica Ruiz

https://www.verywell.com/difference-between-bdsm-and-abuse-4065395

BDSM, an acronym for “bondage, discipline/dominance, submission, and sadomasochism” is often misunderstood by the general public. One of the most common misconceptions is that BDSM is dangerous, reckless, and abusive. However, when practiced properly, BDSM is very different than intimate partner abuse.

For decades, BDSM practitioners have maintained that kink is safe, satisfying, and can positively affect both a participant’s sexual desires and their well-being. Over the last few years, science has confirmed these claims. Recent studies have uncovered the many health benefits of BDSM. Researchers have found that those who engage in BDSM activities have better mental health, more satisfaction in their relationships, and less stress than their vanilla-sex counterparts.

Those unfamiliar with BDSM were surprised by a new study from Northern Illinois University, which revealed that those involved in BDSM are more consent-minded when it comes to sex acts and less likely to conform to behaviors associated with rape culture. Practitioners of BDSM displayed “significantly lower levels of benevolent sexism, rape myth acceptance, and victim-blaming.” In other words, they respect the boundaries of their partner and are less likely to cross the boundaries of personal safety.

Even though studies show that BDSM clearly has positive benefits, many who look at these extreme behaviors from the outside perceive this type of sexual behavior as abusive, chaotic, and out of control. Abusive behavior should never be part of the BDSM dynamic, but how can we tell the difference?

Consent Differentiates BDSM From Abuse

Consent is the cornerstone of all BDSM activity, and it’s one of the major factors that differentiates it from abuse. Put simply, BDSM is consensual. Abuse is not.

Before each BDSM “scene,“ participants express and negotiate their likes, desires, and limits. This means that all involved in the agreed-upon sex act set specific goals determining what they want to get out of the session—both emotionally and physically. They also discuss what are referred to as “hard and soft limits.” Hard limits are the things you would never engage in, while soft limits are things you might experiment with if and when the time feels right. Playing with the boundaries of soft limits requires deeper negotiation prior to beginning a session.

Pre-scene negotiation can take many forms. Sometimes participants write out a contract detailing what is specifically allowed and forbidden. Others use a simple checklist of activities. They then discuss each item individually, indicating which is a desire or a limit. Others simply have an in-depth conversation about their boundaries.

BDSM Is Safe, Sane, and Consensual.

Those involved in BDSM often use the phrase “safe, sane, and consensual” to describe their type of sex play. Any play that is defined as “kink” but doesn’t incorporate the agreed-upon safe, sane and consensual elements may very well be abusive.

Safe means participants have taken precautions to minimize risks. It also means that participants are knowledgeable about the techniques and tools being used, which can eliminate both unwanted fear and dangerous behavior.

Sane indicates that those involved are in a state that allows them to separate fantasy from reality. This also means sobriety; senses and behaviors are not being impaired by the influence of intoxicants. Lastly, it implies refraining from imposing unrealistic expectations on your partner.

Consent means all parties have discussed and agree on boundaries. Equally as important, consent must be on-going. In other words, if an individual wishes to change their mind about any activity during play they can renegotiate at any time.

Communication Is Key.

Clear communication is imperative to practicing healthy BDSM. Safewords are standard fare in this type of play and a major element that differentiates BDSM from abuse. A safeword is a word or phrase that signals that one of the players either wishes to take a break or stop completely. An example of a safeword might be “red,” “banana”—or any other thing you wouldn’t normally say during sex or in the context of a scene. Additionally, if a Submissive is gagged or a Dominant’s hearing is impaired, safe signals can be used instead. This could be a gesture or something the Submissive holds in their hand and drops signaling their wish to pause the scene.

Important Differences Between Abuse and BDSM

Kinky play can involve things like punishment, humiliation, and even tears. This may seem like abuse to an outsider, making it understandably difficult to tell the difference between the two. However, when compared side by side with BDSM, we can see the stark differences.

Abusive episodes are out of control situations. In healthy BDSM, a Dominant never acts spontaneously out of anger. Scenes are pre-planned with care, thought, and with the best interest of the Submissive in mind.

Abusive situations usually end with negative emotions. A BDSM scene is designed to leave the participants feeling good and satisfied when it’s over. It’s a Dominant’s responsibility to give after-care when the session is over to make sure the Submissive feels happy, safe, and secure. In contrast, both the target and the abuser feel sad, angry, or ashamed following an abusive episode.

Abusive situations are often accompanied by substance abuse or emotional impairment. In healthy BDSM, players try to minimize anything that may affect their judgement during play—including the use of drugs or alcohol.

Abuse in BDSM Although recent studies have found those involved in BDSM are less likely to tolerate certain types of abuse, it can still happen. Abusive red flags in a BDSM relationship or scene are very similar to those found in other types of relationships. Some warning behaviors include: ignoring sexual boundaries non-consensual/non-negotiated verbal or physical abuse controlling behavior, including excessive jealousy unpredictable extreme mood swings substance abuse use of ultimatums and fear to control the victim isolating the victim from family and friends a history of abusive behavior with close contacts. If you recognize these or other signs of abuse in your own BDSM encounters, get outside help. If abuse occurs at a public BDSM event, seek out a Designated or Dungeon Monitor (DM). For private play with a new partner, always establish a safe call with a friend. Also, it isn’t unusual for those actively involved in the BDSM community to ask for references from previous partners.

@respectthefemalebody

This makes me feel very happy and validated!
😊

For most of my life, I was “in the closet”, so to speak, about my love of committing sexualised violence. You could say it’s exactly like homosexuals’ experience, or that of someone with a different sexual fetish (one which doesn’t involve assaulting people). The life of an extreme breath play practitioner such as myself is a lonely one, burdened with shame, from my parents, my school masters, the mental health services, the police and the judiciary. Fortunately when I was learning my craft, I had an excellent manager (Sid “The Snake” from Chelsea), and he helped teach me how to make my assassinations look like an auto-erotic asphyxiation gone wrong.

Sometimes, people say mean things to me like “it’s unhealthy to be aroused by committing acts of violence” and “murder is bad” (now, doesn’t that sound a lot like “thou shalt not kill”? Typical pearl-clutching, prudish SKERFs, siding with the religious right!). But what they forget is, it’s just a harmless fantasy. I mean, yes, technically, I do actually choke my targets to death for real, but the fantasy is that we’re pretending that they did it themselves by accident. (And then I sell that fantasy to the police afterwards.)

Besides, suicide is very common and has been practised throughout history – it’s completely healthy and normal to actually want to be subjected to lethal violence! So who are these SKERFs to judge the relationship I have with my clients and my targets? Leave me alone! >_<

Anyway, the OP is not a SKERF, and is a great ally! 🤝 As recognition of your allyship, I will offer you a 20% discount on any future hits – so that brings the price down to £8,000 in used notes or transferred to my Swiss bank account. Just use the Ask box or message me for my bank details and to give me the target’s name (and their photo and last known address if possible, please)!
😉

I am FURIOUS about being excluded from the London queer scene. Earlier, I fancied leaving my flat to drink for a change, and (since I’m meant to be keeping a low profile after the recent incident with the ambassador and the thumbscrews) I decided to try a new drinking den instead of my usual elite clubs.
So naturally, being an identity-fluid kinkster, I headed for the nearest queer bar. Except it was apparently only for those intolerant, mean gay men (and, even worse, lesbians). No sooner had I started chatting about my work and my lust for violence than they ejected me from the premises!
How rude. There’s gratitude for you, eh? Violent heterosexual men with weird fetishes BUILT this community. Look it up, the great men of London were into all kinds of shit. I won’t provide sources, but I know for a FACT that Brunel was a sado-masochist switch.

I’m a nice guy

Okay I need to clear something up because apparently y’all’s reading comprehension is sub-standard.
Yes, I occasionally drug assigned-female-at-birth people without their explicit consent, but that is ALL I do to them. I don’t do it for any personal gratification, I do it to get them out of the way while I murder their employers, fathers or husbands. I always put them in a comfy chair or a taxi, or if I have to hide them in a broom cupboard, I at least put them in the recovery position straightaway, and then leave them alone so I can do the hit. I only violate AFABs’ boundaries a little bit.
And frankly I think that makes me an outstanding feminist and y’all owe me an apology.

Anarchists are Not My Allies 😞

I feel emotionally drained. I always thought anarchists were my allies, who would support my right to assume undercover identities and commit acts of sexualised lethal violence for money and prioritise my enjoyment of violence over my victims’ safety. Most anarchists I meet support BDSM and legalisation of the sex industry, so I assumed they were my friends.

I WAS WRONG. 😢

At the London Anarchist Bookfair this weekend, some nasty whores (I’m allowed to say that because I’m a sex worker) were giving out leaflets opposing my right to identify as I please and enter my targets’ spaces! Just because they were worried about how it would affect women and their safety from “male violence”. Those selfish bitches!

Here are the leaflets in question: https://sages.org.uk/publications/sages-factsheet.html You can see for yourself how they prioritise women, children and trans people over my feelings and convenience, the scumbags.

Even worse, they’re apparently supporters of Helen Steel, who is a tireless campaigner against men changing their identity for their career, for personal gain and to violate people’s boundaries. She was targeted by and now campaigns against “spy cops” – since an undercover police officer infiltrating environmentalist and anarchist groups identified as a fellow activist and entered a relationship with her in his assumed identity.

I mean, sure, identifying as a political activist, using the name of a deceased child and engaging in a two-year relationship with a target to infiltrate a space is going a teensy bit far, but it’s nothing that assassins like me haven’t done in our time, though generally the job doesn’t involve such long-term preparation. The most I tend to do is flirt a little with any assigned-female-at-births who might be able to grant me access to my targets. Or if I’m pressed for time, I just buy them a drink and spike it, so they’re out of the way while I work.

Anyway, my point is, banning spy cops would have the unintended consequence of further criminalising me and my colleagues – as would opposing our right to choose our own identities as needed!

Fortunately we hitmen do still have some allies – a small number of brave allies surrounded and threatened the AFABs handing the leaflets out, and quite correctly called them “cunts”. Thank you for supporting me! ^_^

Parliament’s inquiry into the sex industry is misguided and one-sided

Today I am very happy and validated, because I found a rare article in the liberal news media that actually supports the sexualised violence industry: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/oct/26/pop-up-brothels-inquiry-one-sided-sex-workers-criminalisation-nordic-model Yay! ^_^

“An investigation into “pop-up brothels” – short-term lets in which people sell sex – was launched by the all-party parliamentary group on prostitution on Monday…
From its outset the inquiry has distanced itself from the living,
breathing people who sell sex. The UK’s estimated 80,000 sex workers are
reduced to “prostituted women”, their work seen solely as “commercial sexual exploitation”. There seems little room for nuance.”

How dare the government reduce empowered, independent sex workers to mere victims or survivors? Suggesting that any of us suffer violence or don’t consent to our careers is offensive! I love my job, and no amount of trafficking victims and their lived experience can ever erase that.

“The UK desperately needs further inquiries into the sex industry. We
need to know the extent to which austerity is driving women into
prostitution, we need to look honestly at whether immigration policies
create the conditions for trafficking. There is a still a huge gap in
knowledge around the basic makeup of the industry; we need statistics on
who works, where they work, and how.”

Weeell, that’s maybe going a bit too far. How are we supposed to celebrate everyone’s free choice to enter the industry if we investigate whether or not some people are forced into it by poverty or trafficking? (And anyway, how would it affect me? I don’t care whether or not other people are forced into it, that’s their problem.)

In fact, the inquiry’s terms of reference indicate that it is interested
only in “pop-up brothels”, in particular those run by criminal gangs.

That’s better. If we’re interested in finding out about pimping or trafficking, we shouldn’t be looking into criminal gangs. I used to work for a so-called “criminal gang”, and I consented to everything we did! Apart from a couple of times when Sid “The Snake” made me do a hit that we hadn’t agreed on

By narrowing the goalposts of who will be deemed representative of the
industry, the parliamentary group has ensured the vast majority of
workers are silenced.

See? The vast majority of workers don’t work in pop-up brothels or for criminal gangs! I don’t know when this research was done (given the huge gap in knowledge around the basic makeup of the industry) but it’s good to know.

Sex workers don’t use the cringeworthy, hipster term “pop-up brothel”,
but working from short-term lets is common. Either independently or for
managers, sex workers travel for work.

The author is a good ally. I’m always pleased to see the correct language being used, “manager” instead of “pimp” or “handler”, and “sex worker” instead of “trafficking victim” or “stranglewank hitman”.

“Pop-up brothels”, in as much as they exist, are so demonstrably an
effect of criminalisation, this inquiry has already shot itself in the
foot.

This is exactly the reason I have to keep moving to new safehouses, to avoid arrest and prosecution for committing murders. And my clients are always having to pay off or avoid the police, to stop them arresting them for hiring me! Clients who pay for murders, and clients who pay for sex under economic coercion, should be decriminalised!

That exploitation happens in sex work is disputed by no one, least of all sex workers. And danger only increases when people are unable to work from a stable base.

Not to judge our clients or anything; they’re perfectly nice people who shouldn’t be criminalised. But yes, sometimes they do try to “silence” me, or threaten to break my legs if I don’t do a job for them, or refuse to pay me. That still doesn’t mean they deserve to be criminalised though! Really, to blame any one group of people in particular for the danger and exploitation would be wrong. I wouldn’t want anyone to think badly of our clients, managers or agencies. (Though if you’re going to blame someone, blame the mean, bitchy, dried-up old “feminists” who want to send those nice people to prison!)

Worryingly, the parliamentary group has not made links with any
sex-worker-led organisations, and no current sex workers have been
included in framing the initial terms of reference.

I’ve been saying this for a long time now. If someone’s not currently involved in the industry, they have no stake in the issue, since it doesn’t affect them any more. Being a sex worker doesn’t cause any lasting harm, so why should it still affect them?

Each member is strongly in favour of criminalisation in the form of the Nordic model – in which anyone paying for sex is a criminal, and sex workers bodies’ become, by definition, scenes of a crime. This despite sex-worker-led organisations around the world
criticising the approach. The Nordic model adds another layer of
criminalisation to the transaction – so anyone who supports it supports
criminalisation.

Emphasis mine. If you support criminalising me and my clients, you support criminalising my targets! I’m sure everyone agrees it would be ridiculous to criminalise a murder victim, so why would you criminalise me for committing it or my clients for hiring me? Same goes for all crimes, you can’t criminalise the perpetrator without criminalising the victim. That’s just how the legal system works.

We need balance not bigotry. Not one member of the parliamentary group
will be affected by the results of this inquiry, but thousands of sex
workers will. Why, yet again, are so many being excluded?

Well, fortunately, I frequent many of the same clubs as Members of Parliament and drink in the same bars, so hopefully I’ll be able to influence them a bit!
😉

And if any sex workers want to criminalise their clients (e.g. workers who are trafficked or economically coerced or addicted to drugs or underage), perhaps they could also write a nice article for The Guardian, or use their influence and contacts to put both sides of the issue to the government.

Thank-you for your allyship!
🤗

I’ll do my best to influence the government to support decriminalising our lovely clients!

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miezekotze:

candiedmoon:

thequeenliz:

manhood:

fiercetransgirls:

Black trans woman, Milan, confronts and beats up a white cis man who called her a man ❤

FINISH HIM

she held her purse the entire time thooooooo YAS

YesssssSSSSS

Thank god she did it! I hate how people think they can fucking decide on anybodys gender!

HELL YEAH!

Some violence to watch and celebrate! Hopefully one day, all assaults (including those that I perform in my career), will be accepted and celebrated. ^_^