even if a cis lesbian has a preference for vagina (tastewise maybe, or doesn’t like things up herself idk) don’t mean she can’t date a trans woman. like sex doesn’t have to be P-in-V, she could eat ass, she could peg her trans girlfriend, she could just get her vagina eaten while the girlfriend gets herself off, ….. cis lesbians are so uncreative they’re like the straight white boys of the lgbt community

gaylor-moon:

HAHAHA OMG thank you so much for thisx aww hahaha yesss. I get so tired of rehashing the same arguments day after day, thank you for your on point message
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I get the point you’re making, and it’s a really valid message. But speaking as a straight white boy (well, I’m 35 now, but I spent much of my life as a boy), this is a bit exclusionary. There’s no need to insult us by comparing us to cis l*sb**ns. I’ve actually had very similar arguments trying to convince more women to be open to dating me!

I think I’m quite creative in the bedroom – sex doesn’t just have to be P-in-V, after all! Why, the last time I had sex (which was far too long ago, I’m sorry to say) I lit some candles and watched them burn while my partner gave me a hand-shandy. She left halfway through (rude!) when she noticed I was paying more attention to those flickering, beguiling flames than to her. She was wittering on about me “not considering [her] needs and desires” etc., you know, the usual whiny stuff. Pre-menstrual tension, I expect.

But I finished myself off, did a line and settled down with the London Evening Standard and a G&T. All in all, it was a very nice evening, I thought.

dateaboysuggestions:

date a boy who punches terfs in the face

I wish this blog had been around when I was a boy… *sigh*

Back in the ‘90s when I was but a callow youth, I was woefully unlucky in love because of my love of violence. All the girls told each other I was a “creep”, “freak”, or “total fucking psycho”, just because I used to talk at length about my favourite ways to inflict pain, which included stabbing people with sharpened pencils, hiding thumbtacks in their sandwiches, and, yes, punching them in the face.

I didn’t have a preference for gender for my victims though, I was just happy to get it out of my system. Not that attacking women and girls exclusively isn’t valid! ^_^ These days, I mostly kill and maim AMABs, but it’s not as if I target them for their gender; my targets are the clients’ decision, not mine, and organised crime is quite a male-dominated industry even today.

But I still find it quite hard to find a date even now. I’m a wealthy, well-educated chap with an active lifestyle and excellent dress sense, you’d think I’d attract plenty of women, but alas, no. TT_TT Women just can’t see past the whole violence thing.

So thank-you for spreading a bit of positivity my way! ❤ And if any single ladies in the Kensington area are reading this, hello from a man who does a lot more than punch people ^_- Do send me a message xoxo

And another thing

Excluding someone from your dating pool just because he/she/they has a history of murdering people is essentialist and prejudiced, because it’s usually based on the assumption that he/she/xie is going to murder YOU next. As if that’s the MOST important thing in the relationship and it just HAS to revolve around his/her/zar murder history.

Challenge your assumptions, folx! It’s really not that important. Personally, I only commit contract killings, so I’d never bring my work home with me (unless a client put a hit on my date of course, but that’s never happened in my whole career).

Why not try dating a murder worker? You might be surprised to find it’s not the dealbreaker you thought it was! Remember, we’re attracted to hearts, not parts! ❤ (Taking parts isn’t my usual MO, but on the rare occasion I do a dismemberment, I always dispose of any parts cleanly and responsibly, so you won’t even see the parts!)

yes I’m still going on about dating preferences because it’s the main way I’m oppressed and I’m cross about it okay

You know, if SKERFs would give me a chance and date me, I think they’d find my fluid identity is a plus. I’m a sexy man of mystery! ^_-
Besides, they’re always saying they love a man in uniform, and I’m always beating random uniformed staff into unconsciousness, borrowing their clothes and documents and identifying as them.

And if you say “that doesn’t count, no matter what clothes you wear and what name you use, I don’t see you as John Smith, security guard, I still see you as Gaspar Milligan, stranglewank hitman, and I don’t want to date a murderer”, then YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM.

That is invalidating my identity. It is essentialist, it is problematic and it is exclusionary. And it’s insulting my disguise skills – I had everyone else in the building convinced long enough for me to murder their boss and escape, so why can’t YOU see me as my preferred identity? PEOPLE LIKE YOU ARE THE REASON HITMEN END UP AT THE BOTTOM OF THE THAMES, FEET ENCASED IN CONCRETE. It’s all your fault and you should feel bad.
Feminism will include men, regardless of murder history, or it will be bullshit.

Anyway if any REAL feminists (ie not SKERFy bitch cunt whore (I’m allowed to say that word because I’m a sex worker) scum) out there want to date me, just use the Ask box or leave a coded message in the Evening Standard letters page
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Clarification: WHY your dating preferences are discriminatory

Okay so I got a lot of complaints from SKERFs about my post “your dating preferences are discriminatory”. Well, really just one complaint – “if women don’t want to date a serial killer that’s their choice and you should respect that, blah blah blah mner ner ner (bitchy whiny PMS-ing SKERF voice)” – and I’d like to address it.
The point is, it’s erasing and invalidating my identity. I don’t identify as a hitman, when I’m on a job I identify myself as a security guard, a janitor, an admin assistant or whatever else I’m disguised as at the time. You don’t TELL the target you’re there to murder them, this is really basic (and I shouldn’t have to educate you about it!).
When fake feminists say they don’t want to date a serial killer, they’re saying they see me as a serial killer and not as whatever I say I am. And that’s terrible and they should feel bad!

Your dating preferences are discriminatory

This whole thing with Ruth has given me some perspective on how discriminatory and bigoted a lot of assigned-female-at-births can be about their dating preferences.
Did you know on Internet dating sites, AFABs’ number one fear is that their date will turn out to be a serial killer? As if that’s a bad thing!
Where on earth did this idea that women can “set boundaries” and “have preferences” come from? It makes me feel sad and excluded, and that is oppression!

If there are any women in the London area who are real feminists and understand that real feminism must be inclusive of everyone, including homicidal men, please do say hello ^_-