appropriately-inappropriate:

radicalfeminismisacult:

What a great day to remember that sexual orientation is not all about genitals and lesbians can indeed be attracted to people who don’t have vaginas.

So it’s a preference then?

And that differentiates your rhetoric from conversion therapy… how?

Your argument makes no sense. Please fuck off you genital-obsessed weirdo. There is nothing about a trans-inclusive approach that is harmful to lesbians. Nothing whatsoever.

Speaking as a heterosexual assigned-male-at-birth whose identity can vary from day to day, I’d like to thank the OP for standing up for folx like me! It’s tough finding dates and gaining women’s trust when you’re in my line of work, so I could use a hand stopping at least a few of those mean old exclusionists turning me down because of their “sexual orientation”.

(Incidentally, thank you for not criticising us straight chaps who are exclusively attracted to vagina-havers! I know technically the same criticism could apply to me, and I have a tad more power and cachet as a straight male, but the real problem is those rascally lesbians. Just who do they think they are?)

even if a cis lesbian has a preference for vagina (tastewise maybe, or doesn’t like things up herself idk) don’t mean she can’t date a trans woman. like sex doesn’t have to be P-in-V, she could eat ass, she could peg her trans girlfriend, she could just get her vagina eaten while the girlfriend gets herself off, ….. cis lesbians are so uncreative they’re like the straight white boys of the lgbt community

gaykarathrace:

stranglewankhitman:

gaylor-moon:

HAHAHA OMG thank you so much for thisx aww hahaha yesss. I get so tired of rehashing the same arguments day after day, thank you for your on point message
😙😙💓💖💕💖💓💕💙

I get the point you’re making, and it’s a really valid message. But speaking as a straight white boy (well, I’m 35 now, but I spent much of my life as a boy), this is a bit exclusionary. There’s no need to insult us by comparing us to cis l*sb**ns. I’ve actually had very similar arguments trying to convince more women to be open to dating me!

I think I’m quite creative in the bedroom – sex doesn’t just have to be P-in-V, after all! Why, the last time I had sex (which was far too long ago, I’m sorry to say) I lit some candles and watched them burn while my partner gave me a hand-shandy. She left halfway through (rude!) when she noticed I was paying more attention to those flickering, beguiling flames than to her. She was wittering on about me “not considering [her] needs and desires” etc., you know, the usual whiny stuff. Pre-menstrual tension, I expect.

But I finished myself off, did a line and settled down with the London Evening Standard and a G&T. All in all, it was a very nice evening, I thought.

At first I didn’t realize you were trolling and I was just ???!!!?

I’m sorry, you were “???!!!?” at first? Well, I hope that, having thought about it, now you understand and sympathise with my plight as a chap with a somewhat alternative, fluid identity having to navigate women’s discriminatory dating preferences and boundaries.

As I say, I‘ve discussed different aspects of this topic before. See my “dating preferences” tag for more details! ^_^

even if a cis lesbian has a preference for vagina (tastewise maybe, or doesn’t like things up herself idk) don’t mean she can’t date a trans woman. like sex doesn’t have to be P-in-V, she could eat ass, she could peg her trans girlfriend, she could just get her vagina eaten while the girlfriend gets herself off, ….. cis lesbians are so uncreative they’re like the straight white boys of the lgbt community

gaylor-moon:

HAHAHA OMG thank you so much for thisx aww hahaha yesss. I get so tired of rehashing the same arguments day after day, thank you for your on point message
😙😙💓💖💕💖💓💕💙

I get the point you’re making, and it’s a really valid message. But speaking as a straight white boy (well, I’m 35 now, but I spent much of my life as a boy), this is a bit exclusionary. There’s no need to insult us by comparing us to cis l*sb**ns. I’ve actually had very similar arguments trying to convince more women to be open to dating me!

I think I’m quite creative in the bedroom – sex doesn’t just have to be P-in-V, after all! Why, the last time I had sex (which was far too long ago, I’m sorry to say) I lit some candles and watched them burn while my partner gave me a hand-shandy. She left halfway through (rude!) when she noticed I was paying more attention to those flickering, beguiling flames than to her. She was wittering on about me “not considering [her] needs and desires” etc., you know, the usual whiny stuff. Pre-menstrual tension, I expect.

But I finished myself off, did a line and settled down with the London Evening Standard and a G&T. All in all, it was a very nice evening, I thought.

dateaboysuggestions:

date a boy who punches terfs in the face

I wish this blog had been around when I was a boy… *sigh*

Back in the ‘90s when I was but a callow youth, I was woefully unlucky in love because of my love of violence. All the girls told each other I was a “creep”, “freak”, or “total fucking psycho”, just because I used to talk at length about my favourite ways to inflict pain, which included stabbing people with sharpened pencils, hiding thumbtacks in their sandwiches, and, yes, punching them in the face.

I didn’t have a preference for gender for my victims though, I was just happy to get it out of my system. Not that attacking women and girls exclusively isn’t valid! ^_^ These days, I mostly kill and maim AMABs, but it’s not as if I target them for their gender; my targets are the clients’ decision, not mine, and organised crime is quite a male-dominated industry even today.

But I still find it quite hard to find a date even now. I’m a wealthy, well-educated chap with an active lifestyle and excellent dress sense, you’d think I’d attract plenty of women, but alas, no. TT_TT Women just can’t see past the whole violence thing.

So thank-you for spreading a bit of positivity my way! ❤ And if any single ladies in the Kensington area are reading this, hello from a man who does a lot more than punch people ^_- Do send me a message xoxo

Here’s a tip for all the folx out there (and, I’m sorry to say, it IS mostly the assigned-female-at-births) who say they take precautions when using dating apps in case they meet a serial killer.
Instead of saying you wouldn’t want to date a serial killer, why not just be honest and say you hate us and want us all to die horribly in a shootout with our affiliated gangs and the police firearms unit? Or say that you want us to quit our jobs and literally starve to death? (I mean, what other job am I supposed to do with a degree in PPE from Oxford? Politics? Investment banking? That’d be even worse!)

pronounrespecter:

hello-homophobes:

rmcl1118:

terfismeaningless:

verytinyplanet:

I’ve always kind of taken issue with lesbians who are “dick-repulsed” but not asexual

It would make sense to be penis-repulsed if you were asexual, and repulsed by sex and genitals in general

But to say that you just Don’t Like Dicks, and that you won’t date anyone with a penis is kind of gross and transphobic?

To be a lesbian is to love women. If you specifically don’t date people with penises, you’re equating womanhood with having a vagina, and equating dicks to being a man. Which is just not true! There are women with penises, and men with vaginas, and so many other genders that have nothing to do with genitalia.

Cis lesbians, by loudly proclaiming your dick-repulsion, you’re alienating so many trans lesbians and trans wlw. You’re invalidating their womanhood at the same time as you are excluding them from the lesbian identity.

How are trans lesbians supposed to feel like a part of the lesbian/wlw community and worthy of love if their fellow lesbians are openly talking about how disgusted they are by certain types of genitalia?

Preferences are preferences, but you might want to evaluate yours. Or at least, don’t be so loud about them.

“don’t be so loud about [your sexuality]” wow where have i heard that before

i’m generally only attracted to butches, and am not silent about it. am i invaliding the womanhood and lesbian identity of femme lesbians (of which i am one)? lmao.

why do you think a) the validity of someone’s identity/existence is reliant on my willingness to fuck them and b) it’s our responsibility to validate them with sex? you’re disgusting.

“How are they supposed to feel like part of the lesbian community.”

They’re not. They aren’t lesbians and have no place being in lesbian female only spaces.

Genderists becoming more bat shit crazy and telling women what they should and shouldn’t do more everyday. What great meninists you are!

more homophobia from asexuals

“evaluate your preferences” homosexuality isn’t a preference, bigot

narcoid troons are something else

“how can u have a preference against me?????? how is it even POSSIBLE?????”

Speaking as an identityfluid assigned-male at-birth who is, sadly, having something of a dry spell, I’m always looking for ways to shut down women’s invalidating arguments for excluding me from their dating pool!

How am I supposed to feel worthy of love if they say they won’t date me?
😭

I could understand if they weren’t interested in dating anybody, but sometimes they say “sorry, I’m not interested” and then later, I see them dating someone else, the lying cows!
😡

I mean, I’m not saying that no women are interested in me ever (being a mysterious well-dressed chap with a very active lifestyle and a lucrative small business, I’m bound to get my share of ladies), but I don’t want to date them. (Tbqh it’s usually weird older ladies who sent me letters when I was on remand and I wrote back because I was bored, and they thought we were dating. Them, and Madison, the hit-non-man, because she’s also identityfluid, and I don’t want to date someone like me. I have boundaries, y’know.)

Anyway, thank-you for being a good ally to me!
😘

I, er, don’t suppose you’d like to meet up for gin and cocaine sometime…? xoxo

I see a lot of bi positivity that revolves around girls liking girls and while they’re awesome and everything, people still need to be reminded that having a strong preference towards boys doesnt make you invalid!! Constantly getting crushes on boys and not so much on girls doesnt make you invalid!! Boy/girl relationships can still be pure and fun and beautiful!! And honestly don’t ever be ashamed of who you like as long as it makes you happy dawg

Now this is the kind of feminism I can get behind!
^_^ As a male who is, sadly, somewhat unlucky in love and having something of a dry spell (I’ve posted before about women’s discriminatory dating preferences against me), I’m very happy to encourage man/woman relationships! ❤
Perhaps if opposite-sex relationships weren’t considered invalid, women would be more open to dating me… Well, a chap can dream.

stranglewankhitman:

Violence industry positivity banner, feel free to use :3

For all assassins, hitmen, hit-non-men, and for our lovely clients and allies!

Thanks @machokerr for tagging this “serial killers need love too”! ^_^ We really do, and sadly a lot of bigoted people have a preference for datemates who aren’t serial killers.

It’s a vicious circle, because a lot of psychologists think that we like to kill because we didn’t get enough love and attention from our mothers when we were boys, and now we’re adults, we’re still not getting any love or attention from women. Either way, it’s women’s fault.

Why not try dating a serial killer? You might be surprised to find it’s not a dealbreaker! ❤

Dating preferences, redux

I know I’ve posted about this before, but it’s a big issue. Lots of assigned-females-at-birth say they don’t want to date a serial killer. And, whether they intend to be bigoted and preferential or not, it’s a cultural norm that clearly discriminates against hitmen.

Now, I said this a while ago, and since then, I’m glad to say there’s been some improvement! ^_^ First, Big Dave said he’d set me up with his sister Lorraine… if I could take care of her ex-husband, Scary Steve, for her. And then there was a very nice lady called Sandra who’d been writing letters to me when I was on remand, and said she wanted to meet to cheer me up… but only if her friend came along too, and we met in a public place.

This just shows how deep the problem goes! I don’t want to be a pity date, and I don’t want our relationship to be based on what I can offer.

So, obviously, I’ll have to clarify for yal’l: Refusing to date assassins is discriminatory. But also if you’re not going to put out, don’t waste my time.

That’s how you can be a good ally! ^_^

(also, Lorraine, I will kill Scary Steve for you, but it’ll be the usual ten grand, I’m afraid. I don’t offer mates’ rates. Though afterwards, we could go and get a drink, or go to the cinema? I think John Wick 2 is still showing, you’ll have to buy the tickets though, since all my British bank accounts have been frozen, and, well, it’s just the decent thing to do as an ally. I shall have a large pick-n-mix with strawberry laces, chocolate raisins and flumps, and a gin miniature too. Can you remember all that? See you there! ^_^)

If you’re trying to say lesbians can’t like dick For starters doesn’t have to be anything sexual in the relationship And either way lesbians are wlw and trans women are (shockingly) women

evilguacamole:

glow-cats:

evilguacamole:

glow-cats:

evilguacamole:

glow-cats:

evilguacamole:

iloveradfems:

spencer-shayy:

izzy-pea:

So you’re saying lesbians (who don’t like dick) should be in sexless relationships with males to work around the fact that they aren’t attracted to them? Do you realise how homophobic that is?

Here’s the thing you rape-promoting trans activists can’t wrap your tiny minds around. Nobody is obligated to talk to, befriend, date, and/or sleep with anyone. Nobody is owed any of that. Not transwomen, not transmen, not “cis” people. Nobody.

NO MEANS NO.

It might be a shocker for you but lesbians not only don’t like dick but they also LIKE and want vulvas, what’s the solution for that?Lesbians ignoring their desires to be with a male?

The lesbians I know define their orientation by liking women, not genitals.

That’s what we used to do, until the trans movement started redefining our words. 🙂

Y’all are using feminism to promote anti queer, ultra conservative hate mongering. You don’t get to talk about redefining words, you walking sack of garbage. Fuck off.

What the fuck is “anti queer”?

The trans movement is actually the “ultra conservative hate mongering” group, as you’ve so kindly put it. You constantly fucking harass and degrade lesbians into dating men, you violate women’s boundaries and guilt us into prioritising men. But do tell me how my feminism is the one that’s conservative.

I DO get to talk about redefining words, because it directly affects me. I can’t call myself a lesbian without 100 people screaming at me that if I don’t include men I’m a disgusting mistake, and that I deserve to be raped. What the hell am I, if not a lesbian? There’s no word to describe my sexuality anymore, because the trans movement has warped its meaning into another useless fucking term for bisexual.

But yeah.. I guess I’M the walking sack of garbage because my feminism prioritises women. Whatever helps you sleep at night, you disgusting homophobe.

Mmm. Yes. Now which of us are the republicans going to for legislation advice? Oh right, TERFs.

Trans women are women. Nothing you’ve said is relevant to the conversation because you are talking about men. You define women by a patriarchal sexual binary where sex organs trump any feminist ideas on gender. It’s industrialist, colonialist and misogynist to adhere to such poor understandings of gender. Your feminism sucks.

You are a lesbian who excludes lesbians because you adhere to patriarchal values. Anyone who says you must date some person is terrible and rape that’s are never okay. But regardless of dating preference you are still a bigot and a terrible person. I mean, I don’t care who you date: if you say trans women aren’t women you suck, you’re a bigot, a tool of conservatives and a blight on feminism. If you did date a trans woman and said they weren’t a woman you wouldn’t be any better a person. I’ve still never seen anyone ever even say this shit. What trans woman wants to be with a TERF? I don’t know anyone who’d want to be with a TERF other than another TERF. And I know a ton of lesbians, cis and trans. Every lesbian I know would rather date a man than a TERF.

You are still a lesbian. A really shitty one. Similar to one that wouldn’t date fat women or Black women. You’re still a lesbian though. You’re the one that wants bigotry to be part of your sexual identity. Why do you care if other lesbians would date trans women? You only want to date those who’ve never touched a peepee or something? Please, you’re like a man who doesn’t want a woman who’s touched someone else’s dick before his.

Your feminism prioritizes men’s views of what makes a woman. Which isn’t feminism at all. You can call me homophobic, but it doesn’t change that you are a bigot and trans women are women.

“Your feminism prioritizes men’s views of what makes a woman” so you obviously have no idea what radical feminism is, making everything else you said irrelevant lmfao. What are you basing your information on? Tumblr? I think it’s time to branch out.

Come back to me when you actually know what you’re talking about.

The patriarchy defines women by genitals, in binary and by breeding function. As do you.

You do not understand what a woman is and you are a tool of the patriarchy to maintain your ignorance and bigotry. You treat trans women as men treat all women: you do not trust them, you do not trust them to understand their bodies, you do not give them the freedom to be themselves, you wish to deny their bodily autonomy, you deny them their sexuality and their humanity. All to maintain your frail status quo.

I know what a “radical feminist” is. They are the cancer of feminism.

So happy to see this tagged #terfscanchoke! ^_^ Speaking as an identity-fluid assigned-male-at-birth with a history of committing strangulation murders and who is currently, woefully unlucky in love, it’s nice to see I’m not alone.

When most assigned-female-at-births find out about my criminal history and current employment status as a hitman (some very personal information which I TRUSTED THEM WITH), they either make their excuses and leave, or they start screaming and flee (rude!). And then I have to go back to my lonely, empty Kensington penthouse, and that’s denying me my sexuality and therefore my humanity! TT_TT I mean, I’ve always got my sexy scrapbook of photographs of things I’ve set fire to, but it’s just not the same without someone to share it with. Those selfish bitches.

I feel really offended when women don’t trust me. Perhaps they’ve encountered other violent AMABs in the past, or they’ve lived a life of seeing AFABs being blamed for violence against them committed by AMABs, and they’re judging me by the same standards. But I have never assaulted anyone without a contract. If anything, that makes me much safer to be around!

Anyway, I feel really pleased and validated and quite excited to see a celebration of people choking to death and recognition of my right to acquiescence, and of other people’s boundaries as the problematic obstacles that they are! ^_^ Actually, my former agency has been looking to replace me since I went freelance. You’d be a great fit! If you don’t mind the fact that most of the targets tend to be AMABs (they’re usually arms dealers, spies or organised crime bosses) rather than feminists, I could put in a good word for you with Sid “The Snake” if you like?

Thank-you for your allyship! ❤